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What Wish is Being Fulfilled with a Royal Wedding?

“I wish the royal couple the very best. They seem like nice people, truly. Fellow human beings, at the very least. And that's why I hope that when in the unlikely event that they ever read this, that they won't take it personally when I say that the coverage of this whole ceremony and its run-up was revoltingly obsequious and almost entirely devoid of news value, and so altogether bubble-brained that it makes me think that if there is such a thing as karmic payback for wrong priorities, we're due for some major trauma.”

--Matthew Zoller Seitz, “The mind-numbing stupidity of the Royal Wedding,”

That's a great paragraph but overall Seitz's analysis doesn't parse the blame properly. He blames us all equally but I wouldn't. I would mostly blame women.

Most of the men I know don't care one wit for this thing. It's noise to them. Women I assumed have better priorities, meanwhile, actually asked me to DVR it for them. They need to watch it. Why?

Here's an answer. It's from the book “Which Lie Did I Tell?” by screenwriter William Goldman, who also write the novel, and the screenplay for, “The Princess Bride”:

I loved telling stories to my daughters. When they were small, I would go into their room and stories would just be there ... I was on my way to Magic Town around 1970, and I said to them both, to Jenny, then seven, and Susanna, then four, “I'll write you a story, what do you most want it to be about?” And one of them said “princesses” and the other one said “brides.”

“Then that will be the title,” i told them. And so it has remained.

Seven and four. This stuff is as ingrained in girls as Superman is ingrained in boys. “Princesses” and “brides” are female wish fulfillment, and so the royal wedding brings out the girl in all of them as much as “Superman: The Movie” brings out the boy in me.

But I'm a boy. I get Superman. The wish is to be strong, good, and help people. It's to be able to fly.

What's the wish being fulfilled with a royal wedding? To get attention without earning it? To be greater than others by virtue of station?

Ladies? Ladies?

The Royal Wedding of Will and Kate

“I'll write you a story, what do you most want it to be about?” And one of them said “princesses” and the other one said “brides.”

Posted at 09:56 AM on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 in category Quote of the Day  


Robb Mitchell wrote:

Just a few days ago a photographer sold an exclusive photo of Kate Middleton inside Westminister Abbey preparing for her wedding for between 50 and 60 thousand pounds ($80,000 to $100,000). One photo. A single capture. When asked, he said, we'll make good money on Kate, as much as they did on Diana. Asked if anything has changed since the death of Princess Diana, he answered, yes we don't chase the Royals in cars anymore.

One photograph. It can pay far more than double most average wage earning persons salary. Do you wonder why they are so aggressive? Why they are hiding in the bushes? Who pays this amount for one photo? What do they do with the photo they paid $100G for? How can they afford it? Do they make the money back they paid for it? Who buys the magazine or newspaper that prints it?

Who's driving the car?

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 10:18 AM

Anne wrote:

Not all women. This one hasn't watched one second of coverage, and I have no desire to. So I could say this is a sexist post, but I'm afraid you're right about the majority of women. (This morning my entire yoga class, men included, had a 5-minute discussion just about the “royal kiss.” Whaa?)

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 10:25 AM

Erik wrote:

Anne: I don't think it's a sexist post any more than saying it's men who drive the box office of “Fast Five” would be a sexist post. But stay tuned. I'm sure I'll be sexist in the future.

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 10:49 AM

bb wrote:

in the midst of all the rotten news in the world, is it so bad to be excited about the occasion of a wedding?

and yes, i have other priorities but sometimes a little escape, fantasy, a fairytale, is nice (& much needed!)

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 10:57 AM

Erik wrote:

The question isn't the fairytale. The question is why this fairytale?

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 11:07 AM

Erik wrote:

Or maybe the question is: Why so many fairy tales and wish fulfillments?

Broaden the term, and you could argue that the reason for all the rotten news in the world IS this need to escape into fairy tale.

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 11:14 AM

Robb Mitchell wrote:

When I went to grad school in England there was an event or occasion quite similar to this one in 1981 involving a different couple about to enter into their fairytale life. I can't tell you, on the eve of their Royal Wedding in the same hall (or I guess they call it an Abbey), I had the pleasure of many exchanges with Brits about this hallowed institution they call the Monarchy oo affectionately “The Royals.” In these debates, if you will, I had to concede to them that I didn't completely comprehend their devotion. For them the Royal family is a metaphor of their lives and society. This is a way to raise marriages, birth, family, blood-ties, loyality to fidelity (or lack thereof as has been more often the case in recent times) to a matter of national attention and celebration. And in historical terms, they relate or mark time in their own family lives on a chart plotted out by a national and common thread in a social fabric entwined with inheritance and lineage.... blah, blah, balh...

Okay, so I don't understand that - it is true. I didn't grow up with that, it is also true. We even had a revolution in America to get rid of that a few centuries ago. Patriot blood was shed to rid this nation of all that heavy metaphor that is now dripping with cynicism and commercial exploitation.

But then they would tell me argumentatively, “Ah but you Yanks would love to have our Royal Family.” This morning when I turned on the TV to get an idea of what the weather would be like today in Minnesota, all the national channels and a whole bunch of the cable ones were wall to wall live coverage of Royal Wedding. Sure the Brits have their Queen and their Royal family. This is a part of their heritage and growing up on the British Isles but why do Americans buy in? What's the obsession in the country of democracy and the American Revolution

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 11:52 AM

Robb Mitchell wrote:

BTW, the fairytale married life the couple were about to enter into back in 1981 didn't turn out so well for them...

Comment posted on Fri. Apr 29, 2011 at 11:57 AM
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